Letters and envelopes

The Work

 Adopt a member of Congress and send them a weekly handwritten note along with a small, personal gift. This could be a dried flower, a whimsical sticker, a funny comic you found, a hand-drawn image, a photo you’ve taken, a picture of a beloved pet, or a handmade bookmark. The sky’s the limit—choose something thoughtful, low-cost or free, that simply says, “I’m thinking of you.”

Each week, your note will offer encouragement and support. Ask them gently to find their way back—to themselves, to their integrity, and to the country they serve.

You don’t need to be from their district, and while we are primarily focusing on Republican representatives, you’re free to choose whoever resonates with you. The goal is simple: to create a human connection through kindness. We are not making demands, casting blame, or taking sides. We are offering compassion and courage—reminding them of their own humanity and asking them to be a better version of themselves through shared kindness and connection about everyday things and moments.

Our Mission

The mission of Killing Them with Kindness is to empower Americans to lovingly call their leaders back to our shared democratic values. It’s a form of peaceful resistance against the rising tide of authoritarianism. It’s an invitation for our elected officials to embody the principles they were entrusted to uphold: to protect the inalienable rights of all people and to serve with courage, decency, and integrity.

We are asking Congress to do its job—and showing them what it looks like to lead with heart. We believe every person has the potential to return to their integrity and that true integrity is grounded in peace and love.

There’s no room for cynicism in this work. It’s built on the transformative power of kindness. It doesn’t matter what your politics are, where you live, or which representative you choose. This is not about partisan agendas. It’s about shared values, compassion, and care. Anyone, anywhere, can ask another person to remember who they are at their best.

America’s origin story is complicated—founded in both high ideals and deep flaws. While our beginnings were marked by struggle, they were also sparked by hope in a radical idea: democracy. The system that was carefully and thoughtfully created was meant to protect people from tyranny. And while our nation has made countless mistakes, we are allowed to be imperfect—and still believe we can do better.

Because

Love is

Resistance.

Why Now?

  • This mission was born out of a sense of overwhelm in the early days of this administration. We were paralyzed, tending to our mental health while trying to stay afloat.

    This idea grew from Lisa’s work: when people are met with insistence, they often respond with resistance. We’ve seen this in town halls, on social media, and in how some elected leaders dismiss the real pain and fear of their constituents.

    We’ve seen how economic boycotts—powerful acts of protest—are downplayed.

  • But what if we tried something else? What if, instead of meeting force with force, we met it with softness?

    With humanity? With love?

  • This work is about connection. About choosing hope over despair. About stepping away from rigid thinking and walled-off anger—and stepping toward something more open-hearted.

    Because love is resistance.